Own It!!!

I recently had a conversation with some former students that was really insightful and thought I would share here.

After the usually catching up, the classic topic between parents and kids came up... discipline. One of the kids had recently made some poor choices at school. As punishment, the kid had been grounded and had some items taken away. Of course, the kid thought this was not fair.

I tried to explain that kids have more control over their lives than they realize. Parents can only react to the behaviors and choices that kids give them. The trick is to own your life and take responsibility for your actions. If you are sick of getting in trouble, then stop making the choices that get you there. If you enjoy being rewarded and praised, then continue the behavior that got you rewarded.

I then explained that it is the same for teachers. We can blame our problems on the kids and their behaviors, or we can own our classrooms and figure out a way to improve them.
-Kids being disrespectful? Then I need to be better at modeling and giving respect to them.
-Class is too loud or chaotic? I might need to try a different management style.

So, are you blaming others (kids, parents, administration) for a lack of fulfillment in your classroom? ...But, who is in a better position to make things improve than you? How much better would your classroom be if you owned those problems and took it upon yourself to make a change?

I guarantee it will make a difference! :)